Included in this week’s issue:
The Virtue of a Mother and Father
A great good that comes from having a mother and father is that one balances and rectifies the motions of the other. – George MacDonald
Men and Marriage
George Gilder, that great and original thinker, wrote a book decades ago that has been foundational in our work here at Focus on the Family. It was important to Dr. Dobson and remains so to us. In this book, Men and Marriage, Gilder illustrates the societal differences between male and female and how marriage transforms men, much more than it does women. He has a very unique way of explaining this profound truth.
“Once a man marries he can change. He has to change, for his wife will not long have him if he remains in spirit a single man. He must settle his life and commit to the needs of raising a family. He must exchange the moral and spiritual rhythms of the hunt for a higher, more extended mode of sexual [and domestic] life. He must submit, ethically and sexually, to the values of maternal morality and futurity. His life is no longer so optional, because his wife and children depend on him. Thus individual life assumes a higher value within monogamous marriage than it does in a male group.”
This truth is demonstrated simply in car and health insurance premiums for men. Which are significantly less expensive, that for married or single men? It’s an easy question for a reason. It is not only marriage that changes a man, but it’s his wife and children. They demand he become a different and better kind of man.
Francis Schaeffer, the Call to Biblical Fidelity and our Children’s Legacy
Francis Schaeffer’s last book, written shortly before his death, is an important one for us to take off our shelves and read again. (Hopefully you have it there!) In The Great Evangelical Disaster, his words here are even more needed today than ever. He says,
“When the Scriptures are being destroyed by theological infiltration and compromise, and equally by cultural infiltration and compromise, will we have the courage as Bible believing Christians to mark the watershed? Will we have the courage to draw the line, and to do it publically, between those who take a full view of Scripture and those who have been infiltrated theologically and culturally? If we do not have the courage, we will cut the ground out from under the feet of our children, and we will destroy any hope of being redeeming salt and light of our dying culture.
We cannot wait for others to draw the line. We must draw the line. It will not be easy, and for many it will be costly. It certainly will not be popular. But if we truly believe in the infinite-personal God – the God of holiness and love – if we truly love the Lord and His Word and his church, we have no other choice.”
This is an important call of the Gospel in our age, while we occupy the historic stage at this point in church history. Will we be faithful to the call? I pray we can and will!